Take Back Your Weekend Now! 5 Tips to Recharge by Monday

Stop being a people-pleaser and take control of your weekends now!

Many people I know are simply too nice to say no to social engagements.

Every weekend, they get invited to several social events – a colleague’s child’s birthday, a boss’ housewarming, a wedding of a friend of a friend.

So they end up spending their weekends at others’ events, and then run their own errands (groceries, paying bills, etc), and then never have any me-time for themselves, or do what they really wanted to do.

As a result, when crazy Monday rolls around, they’re even more exhausted than ever. In the long run, the lines between workdays and weekdays start to blur, they never have physical or mental rest, and they get burned out.

As someone who selfishly, has mostly awesome weekends, here’s my tips on how you can reclaim control of those precious 48 hours!

Tip 1: Say ‘no’ more often

Say no!
Say no!

“It’s only by saying ‘no, that you concentrate on things that are really important. – Steve Jobs

Let’s face it – perhaps you don’t really want to go to your colleague’s child’s birthday, and you couldn’t care less about attending the wedding of a friend of a friend – who you only met once.

Yet many people find it hard to say no – perhaps because they’re embarrassed to do so, or perhaps because they don’t know how to say no politely.

I probably decline 50% of the invitations that get sent my way, but as a result, I’ve rarely walked into the office on a Monday exhausted, or feeling like I have wasted a weekend.

I probably decline 50% of the invitations that get sent my way, but as a result, I’ve rarely walked into the office on a Monday exhausted, or feeling like I have wasted a weekend.

To decline an invitation, I simply say something like:

“I’’m sorry but I have plans that weekend!”

Whether or not those plans were to attend a very important function, or to watch Netflix on the couch and stuff my face with pizza – is no one else’s business.

To me, weekdays are stressful enough — my weekend is precious time to recharge before the work week that lies ahead … and no one has control of my weekend without my permission.

No one has control of my weekend without my permission

Tip 2: Prioritise what’s important and stick to it

There's only 52 weekends in a year
There’s only 52 weekends in a year

To have the kind of weekend that will leave you feeling lighter and happier, it’s important to prioritise what’s important for you, in a weekend.

It could be spending time with family, exercise, running errands, or simply just relaxation. Or it could be working towards your goals or resolutions for the year – there’s only 52 weekends to get it done!

Whatever it is, your weekend goals should align to what you’d like to achieve.

My ideal weekend usually comprises of: spending some time with my husband, having some ‘me’ time for myself, and running 1 or 2 errands. I usually stick to it, unless a very important, or very exciting last minute invitation comes up. I leave room for spontaneity, but I also say no immediately to things I just know I won’t enjoy.

Tip 3: You don’t have to stay for the entire event   

Dinner Package
Can you leave an event early? It depends …

You may find yourself in a situation where you’re invited to a friend’s housewarming from 1pm to 6pm, and then a friend’s birthday party from 4pm to 7pm. Both your friends – the one who’s getting a new house, and the one who has a birthday, are equally important or special to you. What do you do?

In this case, I usually try to do both — if leaving the housewarming at 4pm is do-able, then I would try to leave the housewarming early and go to the birthday party. I would first, check with the host to see if it was OK, and explain my social commitments for the weekend.

If it seems rude or inconvenient to leave at that time, and I am unable to attend the birthday party, I would try to make it up to the friend who’s birthday I missed later on in that week.           

Tip 4: Plan to do everything under one roof

Try to do it all under 1 roof!

Try to do it all under 1 roof!

When my weekend ‘must do’ wishlist has more than a few items on it, I sometimes try to do everything under one roof. For example – if I wanted to catch up with friends, watch a movie, and also buy a gift, I might try to spend the day in one of the larger malls where I could get all 3 things done – maybe even more – and still not be bored of the mall.

All it takes is simply looking up the restaurants and shops on the mall’s online directory, in advance.

I have saved much time and money by doing this. Afterall – who wants to go to 3 different places to do 3 different things?

When my weekend ‘must do’ wishlist has more than a few items on it, I sometimes try to do everything under one roof.

Tip 5: Leave Room … for Absolutely Nothing

Do absolutely nothing
Do absolutely nothing         

   “When you say ‘yes’ to others, make sure you are not saying ‘no’ to yourself.” – Paulo Coelho

Sometimes saying ‘yes’ leaves room for opportunity, spontaneity, and magic. Other times, saying ‘yes’ to others, also means you are not putting yourself first.

Whether you’re a serial entrepreneur, corporate warrior, or stay-at-home mum, you, like everyone else, need time to yourself to do the activities that relax you. And in many cases, the activity could be to do absolutely nothing.

No matter how crazy your weekend gets – make sure you try to schedule some time for yourself – get your husband to babysit the kids for a few hours, hire that cleaner to clean your house, while you soak in a warm bath, read a book, or visit the spa.

Whatever gets you relaxed and recharged for Monday – no more excuses! It is ultimately your responsibility to ensure you take charge of your weekends.

 

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