A Self Guide To Find Out What You Truly Want To Be

In this article, Mana Ogawa, Founder of Girls Bee, shares with you the 5 steps to help you find out what you truly want to be!

“I know that we, female entrepreneurs and business leaders, love our businesses and jobs. It is so wonderful to have jobs and be able to love what we do. But I also feel that, even if we love our jobs, once in a while we still need time to think about each of our lives, not only about our businesses but about our lives holistically so that we can live the most enjoyable life. Sometimes we are so into what we do now that we forget about our ultimate goals and visions. So today, I would like to introduce the 5 steps of self-guide to help you better understand your life and find what you truly want to be.”

What you need to prepare

Before we start the “Self-Guide”, we need to prepare 2 things. One is “your time” and another is “your favorite stationery (note and pen)”

– Your time: You need to put aside at least 2-3 hours during weekends or off days. Please switch off your mobile phone so that you can focus on yourself and your thoughts.

– Your favorite Stationery (notebook and pen): For effectiveness, one session every 3 month of self-guide is recommended.  Your favorite notebok and pen will motivate you because the note will enable you to see what you think and how you feel in the past.  Handwritten notes helps you reflect better.

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But life is not only about jobs and careers. It also includes your hobbies, daily routine, side business, and volunteering etc.

How to find out what you truly want to be

If you are ready, let’s start!. Here are the 5 steps, literally 5 questions, to help you find what you truly want to be:

#1 How do you want to be physically and mentally?

“How do you want to be physically and mentally” is the most fundamental question that we need to think whenever we think about what we want to become. “Physically” includes how you dress, how you want to be looked at by others. It might also include weight and the physical shape that you would like to achieve. “Mentally” means how you want to feel every day. Describe how you want to feel when you wake up in the morning, when you meet your lover, friends and new people, when you eat, when you work, and when you rest at home in the evening?

#2 What do you want to do?

“What you want to do?” include your job and occupation that you are currently doing or future jobs you wish to secure. But life is not only about jobs and careers. It also includes your hobbies, daily routine, side business, and volunteering etc. I believe that we all have multiple talents. The universe is about giving and receiving.  When you have a feeling that you would like to show or express your talents, someone in this world is waiting to receive it. Let’s try to do every single thing that we feel we would like to do. By doing so, you might encounter your vocation and calling. 

#3 Who do you want to spend time with?

The people who surround you will influence you consciously and unconsciously. So we need to be conscious about your emotion, your energy and your life and who we spent time with.

#4 What do you want to have in your life?

Without saying, women always have something they want, new clothes, new cosmetics, new shoes/heels etc. So this question might not be that difficult for you to think about. But this is not only about “things” but also about “experiences” that we can have in our lives.

The people who surround you will influence you consciously and unconsciously. So we need to be conscious about your emotion, your energy and your life and who we spent time with.

#5 Where/ what kind of place do you want to live?

We call where we live as “home”. “Home” is very important for each of us. It is a foundation for each of us. Home should be where we can truly be ourselves because it consciously or subconsciously affects our self-image. We should settle in a place that makes us feel comfortable and confident. We can choose the room, the house, the area and even the country that suit for our self-image.

Through answering these 5 questions, you will be able to see what you truly want to be. Please note that you should try to think about not only about your job and business, but also about your life holistically. And also please try to stretch your visions and dream beyond!

ManaThis article is contributed by Mana Ogawa, Founder of Girls Bee. Girls Bee is a community and a platform that aims to empower and encourage women to live the way they want to live. We provide opportunities for women to learn, think and take action to become what they can be.

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